“You will lose if you choose to refuse to put her first/she will and she can find a man who knows her worth.” Alicia Keys, “A Woman’s Worth” OK, I guess I’m going to need someone to break it down for me in a way that I can understand: when did manners,common courtesy and minimal… Continue reading Know Your Role, Earn Your Worth: Chivalry’s Place In Modern Relationships
Category: Love & Living
Get Right Or Get Left: The Art of The Compromise
When you live in a society that glorifies independence and emphasizes the concept of ‘self,’ it can be hard to recognize the difference between upholding one’s standards and refusing to compromise. Since the beginning of time, stories of men and women who bow to nothing or no one have spawned legends, regaled stage and screen… Continue reading Get Right Or Get Left: The Art of The Compromise
The Right Woman + Good Man + Daughters = Former Playa
Several years ago, after we’d been dating for a few months, my boyfriend Calvin and I decided that our relationship had developed enough to reach the next milestone: Meeting the Folks. The fact that we were in our thirties and included my son on dates didn’t diminish the butterflies I felt in wanting to make… Continue reading The Right Woman + Good Man + Daughters = Former Playa
The Politics of The Personal: My Choice of Natural Hair
I’ve never considered myself that much of a rebel, but in this regard, maybe I am. Nearly 2 decades ago, I broke ranks with the seventy-odd percent of black women who’ve relaxed their hair. After rocking styles such as the fro’, Janet Jackson’s Poetic Justice-like braids, and even Lauryn Hill’s Miseducation-era locks,… Continue reading The Politics of The Personal: My Choice of Natural Hair
Ditching ‘The Drama-Go-Round,’ AKA Toxic Friendships
It never fails. We women are accomplished, intelligent people. We have our own homes, manage our careers and nurture friends and family while stretching budgets like fresh bubble gum when necessary. And as competent modern women, we are usually quick to drop folks who disrespect our abilities, our time and our resources. Except when it… Continue reading Ditching ‘The Drama-Go-Round,’ AKA Toxic Friendships