If insensitive pronouncements and disingenuous statements could earn a “Peak Audacity Award,” this week’s winner would be Tyler Perry. The popular playwright, actor and filmmaker—best known for his outrageous pistol-packing matriarch alter ego, Madea—sparked instant outrage with his assertions during a recent podcast that successful single Black women could find mates more easily if they… Continue reading Mr. Perry, No Thanks: The Misguided Musings of A Delusional Black Man
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“What Do You Want, A Cookie?”: Hustling Backwards With Lowered Expectations
Last fall, the week before Thanksgiving, I was at home preparing for a flight when Nia called: she had been practicing after school for choir and both of us were under the impression that her older brother Darius was picking her up. Nia said she was still waiting and for some reason, Darius wasn’t reachable… Continue reading “What Do You Want, A Cookie?”: Hustling Backwards With Lowered Expectations
Doubling Up On “Rising Down”: When “Accepting A’ight” Goes Wrong
“All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.” Scott Alexander It’s a strange habit to some, but one of the ways I wind down after a hectic day is to watch ‘wild-animals-in-habitat’ shows (like the ones on Animal Planet, NatGeo, etc). I never get… Continue reading Doubling Up On “Rising Down”: When “Accepting A’ight” Goes Wrong
Standards vs. Settling in Relationships
“Good afternoon pretty lady. How are you doing?” What started off as an ordinary commute on an ordinary day became a bit more interesting after I noticed a handsome uniformed man staring intently from the other lane as we waited at a stop light. “Hi.” “Are you single?” “Uh-huh.” “Well, how about seeing if we can… Continue reading Standards vs. Settling in Relationships
Girls Will Be Women, But Should ALSO Become Ladies
She was tall, thin and matronly, with cat’s-eye glasses and a helmet of salt-and-pepper curls. Her name was Lola Garrison, and she was my sixth-grade teacher. A sweet, soft-spoken woman who rarely raised her voice, Mrs. Garrison once chastised a flip-at-the-lip female classmate of mine by uttering, in a sharp tone that she rarely… Continue reading Girls Will Be Women, But Should ALSO Become Ladies