Category: Love & Living

Get Right, Or Get Left: Parenting Is a Full-Time Job

  *A prior piece about fathers needing to do more than pick up a dinner plate and the remote control when they return to the wife and kids after work….that is, if he wants to not come back to an empty house.*   According to national statistics, I’m an anomaly, but one that’s more common than… Continue reading Get Right, Or Get Left: Parenting Is a Full-Time Job

Mind Your Business Or Lose MY Business: Take Your Pick

Whether it’s just for a quick wash-n-snip or a full-on day of head-to-toe beauty, a trip to the salon does more than freshen up highlights and revitalize that faded pedicure: the practice of pampering ourselves affirms our beauty in an estrogen-filled oasis of serenity and sisterhood. It’s typically a win-win situation: we emerge feeling relaxed… Continue reading Mind Your Business Or Lose MY Business: Take Your Pick

When Keeping The Ring Goes Wrong

Just 27 years old with a small toddler and a tall child that I was married to, all I could see for my future with this man were more fights and more lies. Did he honestly think I was that stupid? Was this the best he could offer me? Was this the best I could do for myself, and for our son? I decided that it was no longer enough. The following year I filed for divorce. I struggled with becoming yet another tired statistic—that of a ‘black single mother’—but to spare my sanity, I had no other choice. I had a life to live and a child to raise.

Vacating The HeartBreak Hotel, AKA Lessons In Love

“Insanity: doing the same thing over  and over again and expecting different results.” — Albert  Einstein Picture it: 1998. Actress, rapper and former Fugees member, Lauryn  Hill , layers fiercely feminist principles of self-love and  relationship empowerment over hip-hop rhythms for her debut solo CD, The  Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. Her soul-searing ballads and hard-hitting… Continue reading Vacating The HeartBreak Hotel, AKA Lessons In Love