Whether you’re single, coupled-up, or walked down the aisle years ago, nearly everyone has heard persistent myths about marriage: “Happy couples never argue.” “Love is all we need.” “I can change him/her.” Then there’s one that has been disproved time and again, yet people think that saying the words to their significant others will make… Continue reading Siblings, Submission and Your Sex Life
Category: Love & Living
Love’s In Need Of Love Today: Sweet Sentiments & Hardened Hearts Don’t Mix
Roses, chocolate hearts, teddy bears and cards full of sweet sentiments about love and tenderness. Next Tuesday is Valentine’s Day, and every retail outlet since January has been awash in reminders at every turn. Darius is a young man now, more consumed with his part-time job, friends and college courses than collecting Valentine cards. His… Continue reading Love’s In Need Of Love Today: Sweet Sentiments & Hardened Hearts Don’t Mix
Standards, Struggle Love and A Woman’s Worth
The first time I heard Alicia Keys, I was with my mother. She’s not half the music fan that her daughter turned out to be, but that didn’t keep Mama from getting wind of Keys’ first single, “Fallin,’” and playing it every. chance. she. got. In fact, she played it so often and so incessantly… Continue reading Standards, Struggle Love and A Woman’s Worth
Salty Grits, Banana Pudding & Other Delicious Life Lessons
“I’m not a fool, and I’m not a scientist…..but I know some things.” If that line seems familiar, it’s because you heard it in one of my favorite films, Jumping The Broom, or you read it from the front of my blog page. Either way, the phrase is one of my favorites and summarizes where… Continue reading Salty Grits, Banana Pudding & Other Delicious Life Lessons
Can We Live: When Black Women Are Shielding, Yet Targeted By, Black Men
Picture it: Dallas, 2001. I was settling into my singleness and adjusting to the demands of working and raising my then-toddler son. Slowly dealing, but still feeling the weight of it all, but I sought solace in my friends, my family and my go-to elixir of choice, music. Mary J. Blige’s “No More Drama” and… Continue reading Can We Live: When Black Women Are Shielding, Yet Targeted By, Black Men